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Sarah Steele's avatar

Wow, reading these terms was super helpful, Sarabeth. You’re right — these are all very normal terms used in VERY controlling and abusive (read: NOT normal!) ways!

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Sarabeth Kapusta's avatar

Yes! It’s been interesting to see how just writing what the terms mean paints the dystopian picture!

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Ruth Shareski's avatar

This is almost unbelievable but I believe you and am so sorry this happened to you and the others involved. Breathe deeply of the freedom Christ bought for you! I hope you are part of a healthy, biblical community now. Thanks for your bravery in writing so others can recognize ungodly control in whatever form it takes.

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Sarabeth Kapusta's avatar

Thank you! Yes, I have been through therapy, and can look back on this with different eyes now. I see God in my whole story, even the tragic parts. And yes, I’m in a wonderful church now, and I love the body of Christ so much.

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